By: Tabitha Garnica
|Our society seems to have lost the beauty of male purity|
“Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God.” ~ Matthew 5:8
Dear Young Catholic Men,
As you know, we, as Catholics, hold sex to a high standard. We are taught that sex is meant only between a husband and a wife.
As a woman, I have been told several times to “respect my body.” You would be interested to know that most females are told that men are only after one thing, and that it is our job to keep sex sacred.
My boyfriend told me about a talk he attended about purity, and about how he was told to respect women’s bodies. I found it interesting that both of us are being told that my body needed to be respected. What about his body?
I can honestly say that no one has ever told me that it is important to respect men’s bodies. Are the bodies of women more sacred than the bodies of men? Am I supposed to be this sacred untouchable vessel, and are men supposed to be hungry cavemen who need to be stopped?
Even in the media, men are portrayed as sex-starved and immoral as they try to “charm” women to have sex with them. Are men really that unable to control their sexual desires? If this is true, how are Catholic men supposed to keep this standard of purity? Moreover, why are men not demanding the same amount of respect that women are almost begged to demand?
Catholicism seems to believe that male bodies are sacred. After all, the human form of God was a male. All of his apostles were male. Priests are male. Yet, why are women never told to respect the bodies of men? Why are men never told to respect their own bodies? Why does the media tell us that men put absolutely no value on sex?
What would happen if all women lost respect for their bodies? Would we be able to count on men to uphold Catholic morality? Or is it true that once a woman succumbs to her sexual desires, the man automatically takes advantage of her? Do men know how to say no? If they do say no, is it only for the sake of women, or do they have something of their own to protect and keep pure?
Catholic men of the world, I ask you to demand respect for your body from yourselves and others. That sentence probably sounds odd since you have probably never heard it before. But I want to let you all know that your bodies are just as sacred as mine. Show the same amount of respect for yourself as you are told to show to your sisters in Christ. You are worth waiting for until marriage; you are worth keeping pure. You. As a singular human being. Yes, it is important for you to respect the bodies of women. However, how are you supposed to show this respect to us if you are not showing it to yourselves? For your own sakes, resist the temptations of casual sex, porn, adultery, and everything else that perverts the sacredness marriage. God created you for more than that. Help us Catholic women uphold Catholic standards by setting an example. Tear down the stereo-types that men hold no value to sex and their bodies. Show this secular world that men hold themselves to high standards of morality and purity.
Yours in Christ,
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